Do We Ever Really Get Over A First Love?

Today I had coffee with an old friend I haven't seen in almost a year. We talked about our lives. Discussed work, hobbies, interests, etc. Then we started talking about mutual friends, people I haven't seen in a long time and was not sure about their whereabouts and what not. Then, we got on the topic of my ex. This is a difficult subject for me, mostly because I'm still a bit bitter about the whole thing, even though it's been almost 3 years, and I have dated since, I loved this woman and she broke my heart. My friend filled me in on her career and her new boyfriend and the likes. The moment I heard "new boyfriend", despite the fact that how she met him and what not made me laugh, those words hit like a swift kick in the groin. I mean, there was always this remote chance that she and I may reconcile, and I guess a small part of me wanted that. I mean, after the way she treated me and how things ended one might think I'm crazy, but in reality, I loved this woman, and it still hurts regardless. Which brings me to ask the question "Do we ever really get over our first love?". I do realize that we will have many loves in our lifetimes, and some of us are lucky enough to find our true loves. However, I don't think we ever really forget our first love, and in some cases, get over them.

So as I ponder this, maybe it wasn't that I was not going to get over her, it was that I couldn't without closure. I needed that closure, that finality, so that I could move on with my life. I find myself comparing every woman I dated to her, for some bizarre reason, and now that she's finally moved on, I guess so can I. So, now that I'm happy with my physical appearance and no longer overweight and depressed, I think a new woman in my life would be a good thing. So ladies, the line starts here on the right ;)