Should I Stay Or Should I Go?
This seems to be the biggest question I have been asking myself over the past few weeks. I have become increasingly frustrated with my current relationship. I grow more and more tired of the things I seem to have to put up with. I find myself just getting annoyed talking to my g/f at times. I know these are not good signs.
Since I decided not to move in with my g/f things have gone from bad to worse. I feel like this is a deliberate tactic to make me reconsider my decision. Which I refuse to do, because I know it's a mistake and I'm not going to make a mistake that big at this point in my life. Other things that are starting to get on my nerves is my g/f complaining about her weight, but never doing anything about it. I come up with a giant list of things she could do, but all I get in response is "I can't" before the effort is even made. That just pisses me off. I have said many times before, I don't mind helping people, as long as the first make the effort to help themselves.
I have grown very tired of playing the knight in shinning armor, here to solve all her problems and take her away to some magic kingdom where everything is perfect. I'm tired of it, so now I have to ask myself the question, should I stay or should I go. Do I care enough about her to stay and make it work, or do I walk away and go on to something else. Being single doesn't scare me, and if this bull plop, stress and frustration is what being in a relationship is all about, to hell with that, I'd rather be on my own.
I have enough stress and problems of my own to deal with and solve, I don't need that compounded by the problems and stresses of someone else not seemingly willing to help themselves. I try everyday to help her in some way, but it's never enough. I've hit a point where I don't have a life of my own. It's like I go to work and earn money to be spent on her now, and I've been there, done that, and I'm not going down that road again. This girl has made some plans for me that I'm not too keen on right now. Marriage, kids and the likes. I'm sitting here going, when the hell did I agree to those things? I distinctly remember saying "when the time comes, those things will be discussed".
So, in the end I need to sit down with my g/f and have a very long talk about everything and sort this stuff out. If I don't , I'm going to either explode or just go to a very bad place that I had hoped to never go again. The time has come and I hope things turn out well.... :(
Since I decided not to move in with my g/f things have gone from bad to worse. I feel like this is a deliberate tactic to make me reconsider my decision. Which I refuse to do, because I know it's a mistake and I'm not going to make a mistake that big at this point in my life. Other things that are starting to get on my nerves is my g/f complaining about her weight, but never doing anything about it. I come up with a giant list of things she could do, but all I get in response is "I can't" before the effort is even made. That just pisses me off. I have said many times before, I don't mind helping people, as long as the first make the effort to help themselves.
I have grown very tired of playing the knight in shinning armor, here to solve all her problems and take her away to some magic kingdom where everything is perfect. I'm tired of it, so now I have to ask myself the question, should I stay or should I go. Do I care enough about her to stay and make it work, or do I walk away and go on to something else. Being single doesn't scare me, and if this bull plop, stress and frustration is what being in a relationship is all about, to hell with that, I'd rather be on my own.
I have enough stress and problems of my own to deal with and solve, I don't need that compounded by the problems and stresses of someone else not seemingly willing to help themselves. I try everyday to help her in some way, but it's never enough. I've hit a point where I don't have a life of my own. It's like I go to work and earn money to be spent on her now, and I've been there, done that, and I'm not going down that road again. This girl has made some plans for me that I'm not too keen on right now. Marriage, kids and the likes. I'm sitting here going, when the hell did I agree to those things? I distinctly remember saying "when the time comes, those things will be discussed".
So, in the end I need to sit down with my g/f and have a very long talk about everything and sort this stuff out. If I don't , I'm going to either explode or just go to a very bad place that I had hoped to never go again. The time has come and I hope things turn out well.... :(
2 Comments:
At Monday, March 26, 2007 , Likalia said...
*hugs*
At Tuesday, March 27, 2007 , Maggie said...
ditto that.... *hugs*
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